Permission Granted

I can’t quite believe it but the movie “The Princess Diaries” was released 15 years ago this year! I remember watching it with my daughter Olivia and we loved it. We bought the dvd and watched it over and over again and if it’s on tv we’ll still watch it now. There’s one line in the movie that I’ll always remember. Mia, the newly discovered princess is upset because her best friend makes fun of her new look after her makeover. Her chauffeur, Joe says these words to her, quoting Eleanor Roosevelt “No-one can make you feel inferior without your consent”. There’s so much truth in this statement but unfortunately many of us go through life granting that permission on a daily basis.

Feeling inferior

We’ve all felt it. It might be often or only occasionally but I’m pretty sure that every girl or woman has felt inferior at some time in their life. Often it can be about the way we look. We constantly focus on our so-called flaws and compare ourselves to others which just make us feel worse.

We look at TV, movies and magazines and although we know that everyones been airbrushed to within an inch of their lives, we somehow still feel like we’re not good enough.

Bigger than we think

But inferiority isn’t just limited to the way we look. We can feel inferior in our gifts and abilities too. I’ve met so many girls who feel like they’re not good at anything. That they don’t have anything to offer and they’ll never be successful in life. Or it might be a personality thing. I remember talking to a young girl a few years ago who felt that she had an awful personality. That she wasn’t funny or entertaining and therefore no-one would want to be friends with her. It could be to do with where we come from, where we live or what our home is like. We go to a friends house that is stylish and trendy and we come back to our home and feel like we don’t measure up.

Cut it out

The trouble is that it often doesn’t stop there. If inferiority is left unchecked it can lead to many other things; such as insecurity, jealousy and downright nastiness. It can even destroy friendships. I’ve seen people cut friends out of their lives just because they feel inferior to that person. I’ve seen others put friends down in public simply because they feel inferior to them and somehow putting them down makes them feel better in some weird, twisted way. Whichever way you look at it, inferiority is something that needs to be cut out of all of our lives.

Start today

So how do we do it? How do we get rid of something that is so common and can cause so much damage to ourselves and others? We start by understanding and believing that there is a God in heaven who unconditionally loves us just for who we are and as we are. He loved us enough to adopt us into His family and give us a new start. Ephesians 2v10 says that we are God’s masterpiece, created by Him so that we can do the good things he’s planned for us. God created you on purpose, for a purpose. That means that the plan He has for your life is unique to you. You don’t have to compare yourself to anyone else, try and be them or measure up to them. You just have to be you!


Now don’t get me wrong we can all be on the journey of development and change. It’s right that we should be looking to improve our character, to enhance our natural beauty, to get fit, to make our homes look lovely. All of that is great and I love it; but it’s all about the motivation. If the reason you’re doing all that is so that you can feel accepted or good enough, you’ve got it all wrong. These things are to enhance who we are and how we live our lives but we should never lose who God has created us to be.

Inside and out

So, let’s realise that we all have something to offer and we all display beauty, both on the inside and the outside. I love the fact that the world is full of diversity. If we all looked the same and had the same personality and tastes, life would be very boring! Let’s decide not to give permission to anyone to make us feel inferior. Start to live loved, accept who you’ve been created to be and be beautiful you. This world needs you just as you are.